Otherwise, it's probably not going to change much and you'll just grow to resent her even more.Q: Is it ever wise to confront his mother directly? Mandel: If you and he are just beginning to develop a relationship, I wouldn't advise taking on his mother.
In essence, your guy has become his mom's pseudo-husband, and consciously or unconsciously, he likes the importance of this role.Q: What if mama is the one who's not yet ready to cut the cord?Granted, he's not grabbing any scissors, but what if she's the driving force? Mandel: When this is the case, it's better for you to gently coax him to start setting some boundaries with mom.An opening might be, "I get the sense that it's hard for you to let your son really become his own person.I wish you wouldn't feel like you're losing him to me, but that you're just developing a new relationship with him that also includes me." A warning: don't do this without your boyfriend's support.