This emotional rollercoaster is as exhausting as it is thrilling. The worst possible thing that could happen is him leaving.
It’s a fear you can’t quite shake no matter how promising the situation looks, a fear that drives everything you say and do. You meet a guy, you think he’s nice and all, you have good conversation, he gets your number, and while you’re pleased, you don’t go into a tizzy over it.
Since he’s so “perfect” you become afraid to be yourself–I mean, how could your true self MORE: Infatuation…the Silent Relationship Killer You don’t want to say the wrong thing and scare him off, so you aren’t genuine in your interactions.
You rely on his approval so desperately that you also become a bit needy.
You go out a few times, not expecting much, but soon enough your interest and attraction begins to grow.
Things feel calm, there’s no drama, no heart palpitations…it feels really nice. That’s because the first scenario illustrates everything we’ve ever been told about love.
You ruminate over every detail of your interaction with him–what he said, what you said, what his body language said. You check your phone constantly to see if he called or texted.
It causes you to put him on a pedestal and overlook his flaws.You may check his Facebook profile, but only for a few minutes.You are happy to hear from him if he calls or texts, but you don’t notice the hours that pass in between your interactions.Which relationship do you think has a stronger chance of survival? In movies and romance novels, love is this grand, all-consuming force that takes you over in the most dramatic of ways.There are huge obstacles to overcome, but it’s okay because love conquers all!